Why Do Some Animals Snack On Their Mates After Sex?

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One possible explanation for sexual cannibalism could be the immense nourishment that the mate provides the female, after the mating has concluded.

Cannibalism has been seen in more than 1,500 species, but can you digest the fact that some animals feed on their mates right after they’ve had sex?

Interestingly, this sort of ‘sexual cannibalism’ is not a trait followed by just one or two species in the animal kingdom, but many! So what’s driving this fatal wedge between sexual partners? 

A mantis cannibalizing its mate (Photo Credit : Warren Parker/Shutterstock)

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The Mate Munchers

Praying Mantis

When it comes to sexual cannibalism, praying mantises top the charts. Guess what female praying mantises primarily prefer for their meals? Male praying mantises!

Do the males just lie there and let the females devour them?

Well, not quite.

The females slyly keep attracting the males, even after their first sexual encounter. This time, however, they don’t need their sperm, but a hearty meal. The chances of a male mantis dying will only increase with his sex-readiness.

A praying mantis assuming its defensive stance (Photo Credit : Lutsenko_Oleksandr/Shutterstock)

Once they’ve mated, the female will almost immediately chomp on the male’s head. Although this was long considered a female mantis’ most popular MO, recent research has provided more insight into the matter. A study involving 52 springbok mantis couples showed that more than 50% of the pairs started to attack their mate within the first 12 hours.

Upon close observation, it was seen that the males did approach the females, but they weren’t gentle in their approach. Instead, they pursued the females in a violent and forceful manner and an intense battle between the sexes ensues. If the females wins, it spells death for the males, but if the male emerges as the victor, they successfully mate with the female. Oddly enough, female springbok mantises don’t really need the males to give birth; they can do so asexually. So naturally, they can afford to eat their partner, instead of mate with him.

Keeping this in mind, some species, like praying mantises, have evolved a smart technique. They try and choose females with a full tummy, so they don’t have to sacrifice their lives just to pass along their genes.

The Ghoulish Sex Tales Of Spiders

A species called widow spiders exhibit an elaborate foreplay routine. The males make most of the effort, and subject themselves to a lot of risk. He begins his endeavor by coating the pair of antennae-like outgrowths near his mouth with his sperm. He then undertakes a long-distance journey in search of a potential mate.

A black widow spider on its web (Photo Credit : phonecat/Shutterstock)

After spotting one, he will try to woo the female by playing her a song that he produces by plucking the strings of her cobweb. After gaining enough proximity, he taps incessantly on her body and deposits his sperms into her abdomen. What happens next depends on how quickly the male can flee the female’s lair. Too slow, and he becomes her dinner. If he survives, he gets to mate with other females.

Another spider species has perhaps the most bizarre sex ritual. Most Australian redback males (nearly two-thirds) will literally sacrifice their lives just so they can mate! It was observed that, during sex, the males will jump into a position that helps them directly insert their abdomen onto the female redbacks’ fangs. In other words, they can only have sex once in their lifetime.


There are 300 or so species of octopuses lurking in the dark depths of the sea, and some of them commit brutal crimes, such as murdering their partner after sex. One recorded instance involved a female engaging in sexual intercourse with a male for a quarter of an hour, after which she used her tentacles to suffocate and strangled the life from her mate.

However, not all octopuses go the duration; they just tend to fight it out. Others, like the pacific striped octopus, refrain from causing their loving partner any harm while they are mating, which can last for up to 2 days

Mating between 2 octopuses (Photo Credit : Rich Carey/Shutterstock)

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Why Do It?

One possible explanation for sexual cannibalism could be the immense nourishment the mate provides the female after they have copulated. The prey the female is looking for just happens to be the male she just mated with. Sad as it may sound, this ensures that the female has plentiful and immediate access to resources that will help her brood her offspring successfully.

As with redback spiders, it was found that the males that were eaten up tended to have a longer intercourse duration than those left unharmed. This entitled the cannibalized males to a better chance at passing down their genes. Those animals that sacrifice their lives to mate ironically increase their reproductive success.

In some species (like wolf spiders and tarantulas), the females will resort to eating their mate before they even have sex with them! However, it’s not in vain, as they’re shown to increase their egg viability by 30%.

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A Final Word

Sexual cannibalism might sound sadistic, but it’s completely reasonable from a successful reproduction standpoint. Some animals, especially invertebrates, must go to extreme lengths to ensure that they’ve contributed their sperm and passed down their genes to their offspring. Some are just willing to die for that motive.

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About the Author

Ruqqaiya Khan is an Environmental and Social Impact Analyst, with a Bachelor’s degree in Biotechnology, Chemistry and Botany from Christ University, Bangalore. She is hoping to build a career in marine sciences to turn the tide on ocean conservation. She’s an avid traveler, on a mission to explore every nook and cranny of the world, oceanic trenches included.

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